If you see a whole thing - it seems that it's always beautiful. Planets, lives... But up close a world's all dirt and rocks. And day to day, life's a hard job, you get tired, you lose the pattern. - Ursula K. LeGuin

Saturday, May 21, 2011


As you may recall, b and I have a plethora (N=4) of weddings to attend.  All of the weddings have a friend or family member officiating.  Since I am that family member for my sister C's wedding, I've been particularly interested in the ceremonies at these other weddings.

The first wedding is behind us and it was very simple.  A close friend officiated and spoke personally about the couple and their relationship.  There was a musical tribute to the bride's deceased father.  The vows were incredibly brief; a little too brief for my taste.  But the couple were so obviously happy, in love, and enjoying the moment that it was a lovely wedding.

I spoke to C recently about her ideas for the ceremony and vows.  She had none.  The wedding is still several months away and she and K are busy getting through the logistics.  She promised to think about it and discuss it with K and then the three of us will talk.

In the meantime our friends and favorite dinner guests are getting married next weekend.  Last week the groom called b and asked if we were free on Thursday.  It seems they were struggling with their vows and wanted some help.  They thought of us because we seem so much in love.  I can't think of a better compliment to a married couple.  So they came over, drank some wine, ate leftover spinach lasagna and we talked vows.  As I suspected, they didn't really need help so much as a sounding board.  By the end of the evening they had the ceremony completely mapped out and were happy with the vows they had chosen.

Throughout the evening b had to google unusual wedding vows and ceremonies and share them with us.  I thought this one from Dr. Seuss might work well for C & K:

Pastor: Will you love with all your heart?
Will you love till death you part?
Groom: Yes, I'll love with all my heart
From now until death do us part,
And I will love her when we're rich,
And when we're broke and in a ditch,
And when we're fit, and when we're sick,
(Oh, CAN'T we get this finished quick?)
And I will love through good and bad,
And I will love when glad or sad,
And I will have, and I will hold,
And if I might now be so bold,
I'll love her my entire life,
Yes, I WILL take her as my wife! 

And these Klingon wedding vows made us almost want to get married again just so we can say them:

Enemies to the left
Enemies to the right
they are everywhere

The warrior fights continuously.
He fights with honor.
He fights alone.
He can fight perfectly but he will certainly die.

Thus we join one another
One become two
Two becomes a household
Houses become armies
Armies build the empire

Doesn't it just bring a tear to your eye?


Catherine said...

You're right, I do like the Dr. Seussian vows, but I'm not sure I can sell them to K. The part about being broke and in a ditch certainly resonates.

Unbalanced Reaction said...

I do love the Dr. Seuss ones! What does the bride say back?

Annie said...

The Dr. Seuss one seems perfect for C, but still... Perhaps something more personalized. I think it's exciting and wonderful that you get to officiate at your sister's wedding.

Maggie May said...

I LOVE the Klingon one!! How awesome is that.

Joan Kane Nichols said...

It's the Seussian one that brings tears to my eyes.